We can all recall a time when we were “blessed” with a micromanager who made sure we did everything their way. Remember how you felt? Not trusted. Disengaged. Not valued. Stressed. Negative.
Was my manager blind? Could they not see how their style impacted my performance?
Why does someone micromanage? Usually they do not trust others. They treat people as subordinates, not team members. Their way is the only way to do something. Many times they are so focused on results that they alienate people because they are “control freaks”.
If you are a micromanager, I have great news: it is easier for you to change than to change everyone around you! It doesn’t require you to become squishy, sappy, disingenuous, or weak. It is not you as person we despise; it is your style. With a few simple changes, you will be amazed at how people will respond to you going forward.
- Begin in a friendly way.
- Give honest and sincere appreciation. Become genuinely interested in other people
- Talk in terms of the other person’s interests.
- Show respect for the other person’s opinion. Never say you are “wrong”.
- Try honestly to see things from the other person’s perspective.
If you think you may be a micromanager, I challenge you to make these five changes in your approach. At the end of a month, you will be amazed at how much your management style changed.
You will gain greater respect and cooperation from those around you. It is not painful; I promise.
– A Recovering Micromanager