Have we ever told ourselves that we simply cannot jump that fence or do that project?

Do we believe in ourselves as much as others believe in us? Harvey Mackay, a syndicated columnist once said, “to be a champion, you have to learn to handle stress and pressure. But if you’re mentally and physically prepared, you don’t have to worry.”
We all have the capability to do extraordinary things, yet we worry about failure so we simply don’t try.

Since I began participating in the Dale Carnegie program six years ago I have noticed so many people step away from their fears and achieve monumental success in both their work and personal lives.

How then do these individuals get past their fears and attack the very event that causes their entire being break out in a sweat? Very simply they have learned to turn their stress into good stress or often called Eustress. A well-balanced amount of good and bad stress is actually good for you. Stress adds some spice and excitement to our lives and often makes us feel better about ourselves.

Dale Carnegie provides us some terrific tools to deal with bad stress and worry in his book, How to Stop Worrying and Start Living. Some of my favorite includes those below:

  1. Live in day tight compartments – Before you go to bed at night tell yourself that tomorrow is a new day and you have given this worry as much time as it is worth.
  2. Ask yourself, what is the worst that can happen. Then prepare to accept the worst and if possible improve on the worst.
  3. Don’t worry about the past – We all worry about what happened yesterday. Wouldn’t it be far more productive to think about what we are going to do tomorrow?
  4. Keep busy – When we are busy we don’t have time to worry or be afraid
  5. Fill your mind with thoughts of peace, courage, health and hope – So often when we hear bad news about ourselves or the ones we love we immediately think the worst. What a difference it would make in our lives if we thought the best!

Do you have trouble dealing with stress and worry? Download Dale Carnegie’s Golden Book for access to all of the stress & worry principles! 

Posted by Mary Kuniski

Mary Kuniski is a catalyst for business and individual change. Throughout her career, she has consistently led corporate businesses into the future, often achieving process improvement and change that others could not. Mary’s enthusiastic attitude and tenacious ability to keep moving forward is why she identifies with this quote from Dale Carnegie: “Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people who have kept on trying when there seemed to be no hope at all.” Passionate about problem resolution and committed to coaching and leading others, Mary is driven to ensure that everything she does provides lasting value. At a young age, her leadership and public speaking skills were recognized and nurtured through her ten-year participation in 4-H. She has also fostered change for businesses such as Parkinson Voice Project, where she directed the implementation of their website and online learning management system, and Overhead Door Corporation, where she created and launched a successful core data process improvement strategy. During her tenure with The Michaels Companies, Mary held five Director positions and three Vice President roles, and pioneered the company’s expansion into Quebec. Her efforts to lead the transformation of over 40,000 craft items to three languages resulted in Michaels becoming the first international retailer to acquire language certification from Quebec on the initial attempt. This meant Michaels successfully adherred to strict French-language laws. Mary has over 20 years in executive leadership in the retail industry and for 10 years led supply chain shipment improvement and savings and reduction efforts at Michaels. Mary is a Dale Carnegie graduate, certified trainer, and consultant for Dale Carnegie DFW's Executive Leadership training. She holds an MBA in Global Management from the University of Phoenix and a degree in Human Development, Clothing Studies from Pennsylvania State University.

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